Comments on: The Ex Games http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games Happily Ever After Divorce Tue, 15 Jun 2010 11:06:34 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: harriet maine http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games/comment-page-1#comment-10 harriet maine Fri, 02 Oct 2009 15:47:39 +0000 http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games#comment-10 I don't usually respond to blogs, but yours really got to the heart of so much that has happened to me that I wanted to say thank you. I look forward to more entries. Keep them coming! Thanks. I don’t usually respond to blogs, but yours really got to the heart of so much that has happened to me that I wanted to say thank you.

I look forward to more entries. Keep them coming!

Thanks.

]]> By: msscpa http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games/comment-page-1#comment-9 msscpa Thu, 01 Oct 2009 22:23:42 +0000 http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games#comment-9 When I left my husband, after a long, unhappy marriage, I had to learn how to answer the inevitable "I'm sorry". I was certainly not sorry. I was so proud of myself for finally having the courage to leave a bad situation. Then I realized that the "sorry" part for other folks was that we always want couples to live happily ever after. I had come to realize that I could live with him for the rest of our lives or I could have a happy life by myself, but we would not have a happy life together. That was five years ago and, despite the wise counsel of my therapist at the time, I have found "prince charming". My ex-husband has also found someone he is happy with. He and I are friendly enough to be cordial when we are together with our children and grandchildren, although I am always glad that we aren't going home together. When I left my husband, after a long, unhappy marriage, I had to learn how to answer the inevitable “I’m sorry”. I was certainly not sorry. I was so proud of myself for finally having the courage to leave a bad situation. Then I realized that the “sorry” part for other folks was that we always want couples to live happily ever after. I had come to realize that I could live with him for the rest of our lives or I could have a happy life by myself, but we would not have a happy life together.

That was five years ago and, despite the wise counsel of my therapist at the time, I have found “prince charming”. My ex-husband has also found someone he is happy with. He and I are friendly enough to be cordial when we are together with our children and grandchildren, although I am always glad that we aren’t going home together.

]]> By: Dell Deaton http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games/comment-page-1#comment-7 Dell Deaton Mon, 28 Sep 2009 22:28:58 +0000 http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games#comment-7 This is actually quite a common issue folks share with me, altho not so much with the word "my" as the "ex" part. At once there's a need to reference the fact that there is a relationship there, while chosing not to fall into the trap of only seeing it as a negative; that would include denying it ever existed. Freud said that love and hate sat side-by-side, and I agree. We often use hate to plug up the hole left by loss of love - until we've healed to the point of the goal: Indifference. This is actually quite a common issue folks share with me, altho not so much with the word “my” as the “ex” part. At once there’s a need to reference the fact that there is a relationship there, while chosing not to fall into the trap of only seeing it as a negative; that would include denying it ever existed. Freud said that love and hate sat side-by-side, and I agree. We often use hate to plug up the hole left by loss of love – until we’ve healed to the point of the goal: Indifference.

]]> By: Susan Tatum http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games/comment-page-1#comment-3 Susan Tatum Fri, 25 Sep 2009 03:14:55 +0000 http://www.girlsgonesingle.com/the-ex-games#comment-3 I refer to the person who used to be my husband as Mr. X. Like you said, he's not 'my' anything, other than the father of my children. Perhaps, like you said, it's juvenile, but even though I still feel mired in anger and betrayal, deleting the 'my' helps me move on, if only a little. I refer to the person who used to be my husband as Mr. X. Like you said, he’s not ‘my’ anything, other than the father of my children. Perhaps, like you said, it’s juvenile, but even though I still feel mired in anger and betrayal, deleting the ‘my’ helps me move on, if only a little.

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